I am honored to be on the Virtual Book Tour for a wonderful book: The Gift of Giving Life!
I would like to share an excerpt from the book that I absolutely loved:
“Fathers can play a unique and powerful role in the birth process. While most of the people tending to a laboring woman have her best interests at heart and are working to ensure her safety and the safety of her baby, a father is likely the only person present who knows her intimately and loves her deeply. He is also the only person who has contributed part of himself to give life to the baby in her womb and nurtured the beginnings of a relationship with that child he has not yet seen.
It’s important for couples to discuss what role the husband feels comfortable filling during the birth. Society put s alot of pressure on fathers (particularly first-time fathers) to be the sole support for their wives in labor, and this role can be overwhelming to many fathers. Some men just aren’t comfortable taking on the coach role. Or they plan to fill the coach role but find themselves overwhelmed by the intenisyt and power of birth. It’s fine for a husband to be an observer if that’s what he’s comfortable being. However, husbands shouldn’t sell themselves short. Some might think they aren’t labor-coach material but fill the role beautifully after preparing themselves.
My husband was my greatest strength and help as I gave birth to my children, but I have also drawn on the support of experienced women and doulas and found added courage and comfort from their aid. Birth doulas are trained to assist women and their husbands in childbirth.”
-Written by my sister-in-law, Lani Axman, in the chapter “A Father’s Sacred Support”, page 421
Personally, my husband WAS my absolute greatest support for both of my births. He was not only emotional support for me, but he massaged my back, provided counter-pressure, was my calming influence (even though he’d tell you that at times he was scared out of his mind ;)), he quite literally held me up when I couldn’t hold myself up. He. Was. Amazing. I did have 3 midwives at my first birth, along with my mom and sister, and then 2 midwives and 2 doulas and my mom and sister at my second birth. But he was my main source of strength and faith.
Here he is with our sweet daughter at 10 days old:
And our big little guy at 3 days old:
And both of our sweet littles together:
I honestly don’t know what I would have done if I hadn’t had the support that I did from not only my health care providers,
but my amazing, patient and loving husband. He is my rock.
This book is an amazing gift to us all. I love it and I loved sharing a bit of it with you today!
I am part of a giveaway in honor of their book tour and you can win some pretty awesome goodies over there, so be sure to check it out in it’s entirety here: http://thegiftofgivinglife.
Hugs to you all!